As a coach, I have combined the experience of my clinical work with a number of new approaches that are often not taught in traditional coaching certification classes. Central to my work is the idea of the Anam Cara. Within that context, I generally use some or all of the following tools. As part of the process of determining if we are a good fit I’d be happy to discuss any or all of them with you.
The translation in Gallic of Anam Cara is Soul Friend. The Celts believed that everyone needed an Anam Cara, a person to whom you could reveal the hidden intimacies of your life. This person has no agenda other than to see the essence of who you are and consistently introduce you to that essence.
The process of this introduction is unique with every person. Many times, there is a crisis that results in a re-evaluation of your assumptions about what life is all about. Sometimes there is just a general dissatisfaction of having mastered an aspect of your life that you loved only to see the joy in experiencing it leach away over time. These are requests from the soul that you step into a larger concept of who you really are.
As an Anam Cara I am a guide and a witness. We take the journey together and I call your attention to the winks and nods you receive; the messages that tell you that “this is actually that”.
Some say that this journey is courageous; some say it is lunacy. Certainly, you may find yourself in conflict with what is expected of you for a time but ultimately it is simply a process of allowing your soul’s agenda to unfold. It is in allowing rather than deciding that you will discover a way of living that becomes obvious.
We all live in day school and night school. Dream work is about bringing the lessons of night school into awareness.
Dreams are perhaps your most intimate relationship with your soul. In conscious life, our expectations about what is possible have limitations. Coaching can use a number of techniques to facilitate challenging to those limitations but dreams give us hints, puzzles, metaphors and puns that push our thinking and the way we experience ourselves in novel directions.
There is no single interpretation of a dream. The meaning that is derived comes out of the context of the dreamer and to whom they tell their dream. By keeping a dream book however, the dreamer can look back to see patterns and messages in their dreams that have some consistency for a period of time.
I was drawn to working with dreams over 40 years ago because of the gifts they give and the mystery of the communication between the dreamer and their conscious mind. Working with them is entirely up to the client in my practice but I offer it as an additional channel into deriving the soul’s purpose.
INTERNAL FAMILY SYSTEMS MODEL (IFS)
Developed by Richard Schwartz, the IFS model allows us to identify parts of ourselves whose function had a useful purpose at some point in our early lives but now are in impediment. We honor those parts and are grateful for the ways in which they made us safe and then in dialog we give them an understanding that their actions are no longer needed. It is a process that requires some patience initially to build trust and then the transformation of a part or parts can be dramatic and rapid.
Developed by Tim Kelly, Purpose Work deals with the “root of your being, the foundation of who you really are.” It is composed of four elements: Essence, Blessing, Mission and Message. This work is often most effective once a client is familiar with the IFS process. A comfort level in identifying parts of the Self is useful in facilitating this process and there are guided audio files that can be helpful in moving it forward.
Effective purpose work requires that you truly want to know what your path is rather than what you want it to be. While initially that may cause some discomfort, discovering who you really are is the most liberating experience you will likely ever have.
Active Imagination is a process that was brought into awareness in the Western world through Carl Jung although it was and is a practice of the Sufi’s for hundreds of years.
Clients learn to access non-ordinary reality and the guides there who are available to them. Conversations with these guides are transcribed by the client as they are happening and then reviewed with the coach. Used in conjunction with Purpose work these sessions can be used to fill in the gaps in the initial work done with the guided audio files.